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I want to be a husband again!
Age 56 From Bladensburg, IA - Online Today
Man Seeking A Woman | |
Basic Information
| Self Description | | Describe myself?
-The "good qualities" (i.e., the traits that God is constantly trying to build up in me, in spite of my natural resisitance to grace):
Spiritual, Religious (Catholic), Prayerful, Faithful, Simple (i.e., always striving to be childlike and easily contented), Sensitive, Honest, Generous (sometimes recklessly so), Patient, Calm, Sober, Non-violent, Sadder-but-wiser, Hard-working, Creative, Humorous, Articulate, Artistic, Musical, Intellectual, Mechanical/Handy, Athletic (5'9" 160 lbs. and virtually fat-free), and Passionately Romantic!
Things that I gladly choose to do:
Attending Mass and other liturgical functions, Praying the Holy Rosary, Watching EWTN, Reading (Spirituality, Theology, Philosophy, Writings and Lives of the Saints, World and U.S. History, Maritime and Railroad lore, Automotive and industrial technology, etc. etc.), Spending time with people I love (including my seven children), Surprising my mate with unexpected gifts or gestures (flowers, love-letters, etc.), Being smiled at and spoken kindly to, Teaching school (H.S. and Jr. H.S., as well as Sunday School for children and adults), Spending time in the mountains, Seeing trees turn color in the Fall, Watching violent storms, Sledding, Watching movies (good ones), Writing, Singing, Playing the guitar, Listening to good music, Looking at good art, Learning foreign languages, Working as a volunteer at the local Outreach Center, Cooking, Restoring old or damaged objects (furniture, musical instruments, mechanisms, houses, vehicles, etc.), Completing a major clean-up project and enjoying the results, Giving gifts, Making peace after a fight, Stepping out of the confessional after a good spiritual bath, Bicycle riding, Looking at the sky (moon ad stars by night - sun, clouds and colors by day), Observing butterflies and birds and othe wild creatures, Hunting rocks, Climbing trees, Gardening, Mowing the lawn (On foot), Working with a powerful tractor, Welding, Caring for and riding horses, Fishing, Swimming, Hiking, Carving pumpkins, Doing every kind of metal and wood work, Running a construction project with a good crew, Judging student contests, Lecturing, Doing mechanical drawing, Telling stories, Preaching, Making a new friend, Having someone I trust and believe in, Feeling respected and loved, Coming to the rescue in a crisis, Dodging bullets (by the grace of God), Having a task go smoothly and successfully (e.g., repairing an urgently needed vehicle)...and I suppose there are other things that will probably come to mind later...but wait...I just remembered one more thing: What I would very gladly choose to do is LIVE THE LIFE OF A HAPPILY MARRIED MAN...ever after!
"Bad qualities" (i.e., things that I am not proud of, and that I continue to struggle with):
Procrastination, Anxiety, Discouragement, Doubt, Fear of Failure, Lack of trust in God, Guilt and shame over past mistakes and failures and sins (i.e., being reluctant to forgive myself), Judgmentalism, Proneness to retreat into silence when a relational conflict arises.
I am sometimes guilty of Assuming the worst, Thinking too much, Embarkibng on ambitious projects and then slacking off (i.e., if I don't have a very strong motivation or a very strong partner to keep me from getting lazy and lax), Neglecting communication with friends and family members, Speaking ill of the people I am in conflict with, Being irresponsible with money, Not going to confessio often enough, and...Getting dpressed over the notion that I might never find a new wife or have the chance to be a good husband again because I imagine that I'm not good enough for any good woman to want me. But I know in my heart that I can be a good husband, although I can't do it alone.
As a footnote, my annulment process is hopefully in the home-stretch.
After more than five years of being divorced, I have come to the conclusion (a very "Biblical" conclusion) that it is not good for this man to be alone. |
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